In our culture we grow up censoring the way that we talk. For those of us who feel deeply, it can be a challenge to traverse a culture that judges people who feel deeply.
Have you ever been told you are too sensitive? Have you been told you are too emotional? Have you been told you need to reign it in and get a grip? Have you been told you are exaggerating? Have you been told that you are misunderstanding the situation?
A lot of people have spent their lives being told they don’t have a right to their feelings, that in some way they need to change how they feel. I don’t really think that that is possible. Your emotions are your emotions, period. That is not to say that within an emotional response there isn’t room for change. Often a strong emotional response is the mind-body communicating something to you, that something does need to change, shift and transform, but to clamp down on it and deny it completely creates disharmony rather than allowing the real issue to be revealed.
This habitual pattern of keeping your feelings to yourself stifles the expression of the true you, the juicy essence of who you are, your mojo. Once we start controlling the way that we are perceived, which pretty much all of us do from an early age, it makes it difficult to get truly connected to your mojo, to the way that you want to express yourself in this life.
Getting reconnected to our emotions, getting greater understanding of how we feel, why we feel, what helps to balance us when emotions do envelop us and we feel like we can’t escape. Finding the personal flow of expressing yourself and letting your emotions be what they are without needing to express them is a fine art, and one that can take a lifetime to refine.
With more insight into how we feel and finding that place of ease in expressing our feelings naturally creates greater ease in our relationships. When we over-control our emotions and tell ourselves we are stupid for how we feel, we establish a pattern of keeping our thoughts to ourselves. Despite an overwhelming feeling of wanting to tell someone how we feel, we keep the words locked up in the throat. The words are like ripe fruit, and even though you know the time is right to say something, to share your thoughts, because you have been told you don’t have a right to your opinion, you don’t share your feelings. The moment passes and the words become rotten or spoiled, and you just have to let them go, unspoken.
The truth is that you aren’t too sensitive, you aren’t too emotional, because there is no such thing. You are just a human being who experiences the world in an emotional way. People do want to hear what you have to say, so don’t let your words become like rotten fruit. Be present and connected to yourself when you express yourself, but allow your emotional mojo flow!